I don't know why it is. But whenever my mother decides to call and talk to us( my sister and I) it never is really a good conversation on the phone. She either has a tendency to bring up the past or say something offensive. She can never update us on something new or how she is. She either talks about the past involving my dad and saying " Oh well he left me" ETC. It gets boring,I wanna talk to my mom as an adult and not have a childl like conversation.
She said something to me yesterday on the phone that was offensive to me. So I am going to get and stress my point across. She told me yesterday" Your crazy for wanting to move over to Korea with North Korea being the way they are, I know you miss your Husband but your still crazy". Ok hello,if I wasn't able to move over there,the military wouldn't have sent me all the paper work over to fill out and send back,saying I can move over there. Apparently it isn't that bad,so I can go. They wouldn't put someone in danger and exspecially a mother with a new baby.
I wish that my mom would just at least have a conversation with me that doesn't invole one person always getting pissed off
Monday, June 22, 2009
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Finalization
I was talking to my Husband today on the phone over at my mother in laws house. My cell phone doesn't so he called me on hers. I found something out. All the paper work that I sent over to korea only needs three more signatures until it is finalized and approved for Emma and I to move over there. I can't wait,im so excited,that means one more less day until I can see the love of my life. :D
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Moving
So I finally got all the paper work filled out and sent so I can finally move over to Korea to be with my Husband. What made me wait a while to do it was the fact that I had to wait Emma's Social Securty card to come in.
Here is one thing that you need to know about the Military. If you're in the Military
,wanna go into the Military,married someone in the Military,or had a child that is in the Military because their mom or dad is in. That it involes a lot of paper work filled out and sent,with a lot of things described in it,every little detail of your life.You send it to a lot of people to see and you wait a long time for it to come back saying you can move. Yeah I know that is A LOT (Indulge in my humor)
As I was saying,I finally got it all filled out and sent,to have a lot of people to view it. So hopefully it won't take that long to view it,finalize it and give me my orders to move. Before I can do that, I need to get all my stuff packed and shiped over there once Sean signs for our house. That is the reason why it may take a month to get everything all done.
I am looking forward to being over there,but it seems like that no one understands how I feel about moving over there. I want to be over there,I have been away from my Husband for the longest time,so im looking for to finally settling down with him,in our own home and being a family. They think that just because North Korea cant figure their butt from a hole in the ground that I am going to put everything on halt. I shouldn't have to let one thing affect everything.
For one thing,I am going to be in the very very very South Korea,and two,im not going to let anyone stop me from being happy,im happy when I am with Sean,and im happy that I have Emma. But apart of me is missing,because he is half way around the world,and has been gone for 7 months. I am not going to let anything stand in my way of wanting to feel that happiness with my Husband.
Here is one thing that you need to know about the Military. If you're in the Military
,wanna go into the Military,married someone in the Military,or had a child that is in the Military because their mom or dad is in. That it involes a lot of paper work filled out and sent,with a lot of things described in it,every little detail of your life.You send it to a lot of people to see and you wait a long time for it to come back saying you can move. Yeah I know that is A LOT (Indulge in my humor)
As I was saying,I finally got it all filled out and sent,to have a lot of people to view it. So hopefully it won't take that long to view it,finalize it and give me my orders to move. Before I can do that, I need to get all my stuff packed and shiped over there once Sean signs for our house. That is the reason why it may take a month to get everything all done.
I am looking forward to being over there,but it seems like that no one understands how I feel about moving over there. I want to be over there,I have been away from my Husband for the longest time,so im looking for to finally settling down with him,in our own home and being a family. They think that just because North Korea cant figure their butt from a hole in the ground that I am going to put everything on halt. I shouldn't have to let one thing affect everything.
For one thing,I am going to be in the very very very South Korea,and two,im not going to let anyone stop me from being happy,im happy when I am with Sean,and im happy that I have Emma. But apart of me is missing,because he is half way around the world,and has been gone for 7 months. I am not going to let anything stand in my way of wanting to feel that happiness with my Husband.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Source from Parents Magazine on Pain reliefe method for infants
A professor in medical school told the practice of pediatrics is a lot like veterinary medicine. Neither animals nor babies can talk, so in order to help them, doctors need to speak with their caregivers, look for subtle physical clues, and express compassion without words.
But consider what pediatricians with even the best intentions do to babies. To greet them immediately after birth, we jab their thigh with a syringe of vitamin K. Before they leave the hospital, we prick their foot with a razorlike lancet to collect blood for screening tests. At many hospitals, doctors cut off newborn boys' foreskin without a topical anesthetic. And every few months, babies feel the antiseptic dab of alcohol, followed invariably by multiple vaccine injections. The cries of little children are the sound track of a pediatrician's life.
And that's just when kids are healthy. Fever can be a sign of meningitis in infants, so they may need a spinal tap -- usually without any anesthesia -- to rule out the serious infection. Many pediatric emergency rooms employ orderlies called "holders," whose primary job is to physically restrain struggling babies and toddlers during painful procedures like a bone-marrow biopsy. To treat deep cuts, we sometimes have to strap young children into a papooselike contraption, pinning their arms down as we carefully stitch lacerations on their face.
It's hard to imagine that doctors would ever treat older kids or adults this way. Perhaps we neglect pain in the very young not because we're heartless but because we subconsciously think that they're not yet fully human and thus are incapable of really experiencing or understanding pain. As a result, children suffer needlessly in hospitals and clinics, and even in their own home
For decades, doctors believed that babies didn't feel pain, based on flawed studies showing that sleeping infants didn't respond to light pinpricks. In fact, until the 1980s, many newborns who had heart surgery received no pain medication -- they were only given paralytic drugs that forced them to lie completely still, though fully aware, as their chests were opened.
These practices greatly disturbed Kanwaljeet Anand, MD, director of Arkansas Children's Hospital Research Institute Pain Neurobiology Laboratory, in Little Rock, who noticed babies had a rapid pulse and low blood pressure after cardiac surgery without pain control. "They appeared incredibly stressed," he recently told me. Two decades ago, Dr. Anand published a study showing that using proper anesthesia during infant heart surgery dramatically reduced deaths. His findings helped change how doctors think about neonatal pain, and today general anesthesia is standard for babies undergoing surgery.
More recent research has proven that even mild pain can have a major impact. Canadian doctors, for example, found that newborns who were circumcised without local anesthesia developed a form of post-traumatic stress disorder. Another study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association showed that newborns who received frequent blood tests would become upset as soon as they were swabbed with an alcohol wipe. And according to surveys of hospitalized kids of different ages, they reported that getting an IV caused some of their worst pain. "The science is increasingly clear that untreated pain can cause harm," says Gary A. Walco, PhD, professor of anesthesia at University of Washington School of Medicine, in Seattle. In articles for medical journals, he has argued that proper pain control for children is a basic human right. "In the overwhelming majority of cases, there is no need for kids to feel pain from medical procedures," he says.
Unfortunately, this message hasn't caught on widely enough yet. In 2006, a survey of newborn intensive care units found that doctors only checked for pain in 10 percent of newborns after major surgery, and many children received no pain medications to comfort them. Babies in intensive care had an average of 14 painful procedures per day.
If you ask any parent whether her child's doctor offers special treatment before administering immunizations, blood tests, or other procedures, you're likely to get a blank stare in response. One fascinating study found that most parents would be willing to stay an hour longer at their pediatrician's office to avoid pain for their child, and three-quarters said they'd pay $15 for any method to eliminate pain. (A third of parents would pay more than $100!)
"It's important to be an advocate for your child," says Dr. Walco. But the truth is that even parents who know about available pain-relief options don't always insist on them. Dr. Anand remembers when his own daughter was born in a Boston hospital and needed a blood test. Before pricking her foot, a nurse told him, "Don't worry, she won't feel any pain." Dr. Anand replied, "But I know that babies do feel pain." The nurse smiled at him condescendingly and said, "You're just being a dad." With that rebuke, Dr. Anand remained silent as the nurse drew the blood.
Sometimes, I think back with regret on how aggravated I've become while looking into an uncooperative toddler's ears or listening to a screaming baby. Faced with distraught children, it's easy for parents and pediatricians to get frustrated, but our own tension can send kids into a downward spiral. It's not hard, though, to do blood tests or give vaccines painlessly. No major medical breakthroughs are required, and the costs are minimal. As I've learned, you just need to prepare.
Recently, for example, an infant in my pediatric cardiology clinic needed a blood test, and her mother requested that it be as pain-free as possible. Before the appointment, as I often do, I called in a prescription for a topical anesthetic cream called EMLA (the cost at a local pharmacy was $2 per dose), and the mother applied it to her baby's arm an hour in advance of our visit. The cream gets absorbed into the skin so the prick doesn't hurt.
A few minutes before the needle stick, we gave the baby a pacifier dipped in sugar water, which is thought to promote the release of pleasure-producing endorphins in the brain. (Research has shown that sugar solutions alone eliminate needle pain in up to 80 percent of infants.) We then wrapped her in a blanket, exposed her arm, and her mother distracted her with pictures on her cell phone. Our nurse tied on a small tourniquet and drew a quarter-teaspoon of blood.
Remarkably, the baby never cried. Not only did we spare her from pain, but in some small way, I think we also enhanced their mother-child bond. Instead of feeling helpless, her mother felt empowered because she had successfully comforted her daughter.
But consider what pediatricians with even the best intentions do to babies. To greet them immediately after birth, we jab their thigh with a syringe of vitamin K. Before they leave the hospital, we prick their foot with a razorlike lancet to collect blood for screening tests. At many hospitals, doctors cut off newborn boys' foreskin without a topical anesthetic. And every few months, babies feel the antiseptic dab of alcohol, followed invariably by multiple vaccine injections. The cries of little children are the sound track of a pediatrician's life.
And that's just when kids are healthy. Fever can be a sign of meningitis in infants, so they may need a spinal tap -- usually without any anesthesia -- to rule out the serious infection. Many pediatric emergency rooms employ orderlies called "holders," whose primary job is to physically restrain struggling babies and toddlers during painful procedures like a bone-marrow biopsy. To treat deep cuts, we sometimes have to strap young children into a papooselike contraption, pinning their arms down as we carefully stitch lacerations on their face.
It's hard to imagine that doctors would ever treat older kids or adults this way. Perhaps we neglect pain in the very young not because we're heartless but because we subconsciously think that they're not yet fully human and thus are incapable of really experiencing or understanding pain. As a result, children suffer needlessly in hospitals and clinics, and even in their own home
For decades, doctors believed that babies didn't feel pain, based on flawed studies showing that sleeping infants didn't respond to light pinpricks. In fact, until the 1980s, many newborns who had heart surgery received no pain medication -- they were only given paralytic drugs that forced them to lie completely still, though fully aware, as their chests were opened.
These practices greatly disturbed Kanwaljeet Anand, MD, director of Arkansas Children's Hospital Research Institute Pain Neurobiology Laboratory, in Little Rock, who noticed babies had a rapid pulse and low blood pressure after cardiac surgery without pain control. "They appeared incredibly stressed," he recently told me. Two decades ago, Dr. Anand published a study showing that using proper anesthesia during infant heart surgery dramatically reduced deaths. His findings helped change how doctors think about neonatal pain, and today general anesthesia is standard for babies undergoing surgery.
More recent research has proven that even mild pain can have a major impact. Canadian doctors, for example, found that newborns who were circumcised without local anesthesia developed a form of post-traumatic stress disorder. Another study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association showed that newborns who received frequent blood tests would become upset as soon as they were swabbed with an alcohol wipe. And according to surveys of hospitalized kids of different ages, they reported that getting an IV caused some of their worst pain. "The science is increasingly clear that untreated pain can cause harm," says Gary A. Walco, PhD, professor of anesthesia at University of Washington School of Medicine, in Seattle. In articles for medical journals, he has argued that proper pain control for children is a basic human right. "In the overwhelming majority of cases, there is no need for kids to feel pain from medical procedures," he says.
Unfortunately, this message hasn't caught on widely enough yet. In 2006, a survey of newborn intensive care units found that doctors only checked for pain in 10 percent of newborns after major surgery, and many children received no pain medications to comfort them. Babies in intensive care had an average of 14 painful procedures per day.
If you ask any parent whether her child's doctor offers special treatment before administering immunizations, blood tests, or other procedures, you're likely to get a blank stare in response. One fascinating study found that most parents would be willing to stay an hour longer at their pediatrician's office to avoid pain for their child, and three-quarters said they'd pay $15 for any method to eliminate pain. (A third of parents would pay more than $100!)
"It's important to be an advocate for your child," says Dr. Walco. But the truth is that even parents who know about available pain-relief options don't always insist on them. Dr. Anand remembers when his own daughter was born in a Boston hospital and needed a blood test. Before pricking her foot, a nurse told him, "Don't worry, she won't feel any pain." Dr. Anand replied, "But I know that babies do feel pain." The nurse smiled at him condescendingly and said, "You're just being a dad." With that rebuke, Dr. Anand remained silent as the nurse drew the blood.
Sometimes, I think back with regret on how aggravated I've become while looking into an uncooperative toddler's ears or listening to a screaming baby. Faced with distraught children, it's easy for parents and pediatricians to get frustrated, but our own tension can send kids into a downward spiral. It's not hard, though, to do blood tests or give vaccines painlessly. No major medical breakthroughs are required, and the costs are minimal. As I've learned, you just need to prepare.
Recently, for example, an infant in my pediatric cardiology clinic needed a blood test, and her mother requested that it be as pain-free as possible. Before the appointment, as I often do, I called in a prescription for a topical anesthetic cream called EMLA (the cost at a local pharmacy was $2 per dose), and the mother applied it to her baby's arm an hour in advance of our visit. The cream gets absorbed into the skin so the prick doesn't hurt.
A few minutes before the needle stick, we gave the baby a pacifier dipped in sugar water, which is thought to promote the release of pleasure-producing endorphins in the brain. (Research has shown that sugar solutions alone eliminate needle pain in up to 80 percent of infants.) We then wrapped her in a blanket, exposed her arm, and her mother distracted her with pictures on her cell phone. Our nurse tied on a small tourniquet and drew a quarter-teaspoon of blood.
Remarkably, the baby never cried. Not only did we spare her from pain, but in some small way, I think we also enhanced their mother-child bond. Instead of feeling helpless, her mother felt empowered because she had successfully comforted her daughter.
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Graduation
On May 27th 2009 at 7:00 PM I proudly graduated from Beaver Dam High School in Beaver Dam Arizona.
I earned my diploma. I am so happy. I may have gotten Married and had a baby in High School but I still earned my Degree. I am very happy. Here are some pictures from graduation
I earned my diploma. I am so happy. I may have gotten Married and had a baby in High School but I still earned my Degree. I am very happy. Here are some pictures from graduation
Watch your children
Why does it really have to be that bad in todays society to where you cannot have your own children play outside in their yard,without having them snatched away.
You can watch the news and hear the stories about all these little girls who have been kidnapped and killed. 5 year old girls in fact. That is WRONG,moreover heartbreaking and sad. Ever since little Caylee Anthony went missing and was found dead,there has been 4 little incidents since.It's heartbreaking to those childrens parents who have to lose their children to some sexual and child predator and murderer.
If you haven't watched the news lately. You have or haven't heard that the body of Nevaeh Buchannan was ound in ditch by a river in Michigan,Covered in cemet.Now who would do that.That child is not going to be coming back to her parents or her friends.
What a sick society!
You can watch the news and hear the stories about all these little girls who have been kidnapped and killed. 5 year old girls in fact. That is WRONG,moreover heartbreaking and sad. Ever since little Caylee Anthony went missing and was found dead,there has been 4 little incidents since.It's heartbreaking to those childrens parents who have to lose their children to some sexual and child predator and murderer.
If you haven't watched the news lately. You have or haven't heard that the body of Nevaeh Buchannan was ound in ditch by a river in Michigan,Covered in cemet.Now who would do that.That child is not going to be coming back to her parents or her friends.
What a sick society!
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